Dating non believer
[Life 201 is a weekly advice column headed by pastor, counselor and RELEVANT Podcast member Eddie Kaufholz.
Eddie answers questions and gives advice on issues you want to hear about. Can a Christian and a non-Christian date, fall in love, be genuinely happy, get married and do great things for the world? There are countless follower/non-follower relationships that would be viewed as phenomenal by any standard.
Without that, you spin your wheels alone and eventually get tired of explaining how you feel God’s calling on your life.
You disengage with God—not because you don’t love God, but because you deeply love this woman and are having to make concessions in order to speak a common language.
For her, well, I don’t know what her foundation is—and maybe she doesn’t either.
But if you two are doing this thing together, there’s got to be a common sense of purpose and mission.
Email your questions to [email protected]] I’m dating a woman and I really like her. She’s an incredible person who teaches me so much and is kind and everything you’d hope for in a mate, but she just doesn’t buy into Jesus. And before you start getting all nervous that I’m about to drop the axe on this sweet thing you’ve got going, know that I’m not about to tell you to break up immediately. Additionally, it is possible for you to follow Jesus and bear fruit throughout your life even if your dating relationship isn’t rooted in Christ. But somewhere, at some point, you’re going to realize that you are building a life on two different foundations.
I assume you know right and wrong when it comes to sins such as lying, stealing, and killing.
It’s such a common thing that either you’ve heard of it or are caught up in it yourself! It is the seemingly endless habit many couples have in which they will fight and makeup on a regular basis. It makes for great movies, but what works for a 90-minute Hollywood hit is a no-go in the real world.
What I mean is this: if fighting in your dating world means hitting, pushing, shoving, name calling, yelling, manipulating, or anything rude that occurs on a consistent basis then, of course, turn walk away. In bad relationships, bad things happen and will continue to happen if you let them. Wisdom always does now what brings satisfaction later.
But because there isn’t a clear Biblical mandate, and because there is wisdom in both of the aforementioned “Yes! ” camps, you’ve got to do something to break the stalemate: intensely, seriously, pray.
Maybe God has you right where He wants you and this relationship is about pulling her into the Kingdom, instead of drawing you away from God.That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Any emotional attachment you have toward a person who is not on the same spiritual page as you, or vice versa, is an unhealthy attachment.